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Age in The Time of Experts
So much has been said about age, yet so little should. Everyone seems to know what is best for other people at every stage of their life; from what to wear to who to be. Can you imagine what that’s like? Oh, wait, you can because we all see it every day — on TV, social media, in real life! I’ve always had a strong opinion about this aging thing because I’ve had to hear opinions about how or when to “act your age” from people very close to me since I was a very young girl. I’m talking about my own mom. In our Latino culture, especially in my…
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How to accept your small frame (excerpt)
As an author, I don’t think I could always keep a copy of my own book nearby. But whenever I need to remind myself of my purpose or of things that I’ve accomplished because of my stories, or of my own advice, I like to go back to a particular page or chapter in my book. It’s purely for satisfaction (and a little ego boost). Most recently, I revisited my FLAT: LIVING SMALL IN LARGE AMERICA book — my very own personal journey that I wrote in hopes of inspiring other women to make peace with their bodies and, particularly, their small boobs — and boy, am I proud. I…
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The Era of The Influencer
One good thing about trends is that, eventually, they fade. Why is it a good thing? Some trends are so terrible that they need to make their way out as fast as they made their way in. I have respect for people who saw an opportunity in a movement and made a living out of it, but I’m biased, I must say. If it’s something that influences people in a negative way; I’m not buying it, I’m not for it, I’m not supporting it, and I don’t think others should. To be very direct, the dieters, the anti-vaxxers, the conspiracy theorists, and everybody else selling false happiness (and excessive pizza…
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You’re the Real Deal
What some men say, or what you think men say about your chest, is bringing you down. Don’t let this fiction influence your reality. Remove everyone’s eyes from you. Forget about everyone’s views on the “ideal” breasts and you’ll be alone in the room with the only critic that matters: yourself. It’s important that you understand that you’re not a walking magazine cutout. You’re the real deal, the full 3D experience, if you will, with working organs that cannot be trimmed down (or blown up, in our case) just to fit the mold. Love your assets — they’re beautiful the way they are. Bringing women a bit of inspiration on this start…
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A Most True Definition of Sexy
Here is the definition of sexy, as per the Merriam-Webster dictionary: Sexy: adjective \ ˈsek-sē \ 1 : sexually suggestive or stimulating : erotic 2 : generally attractive or interesting : appealing Here is my definition of sexy: Based on the meaning that something or someone sexy is intended to evoke desire, I long ago concluded the following: “Sexy” is not just something you push up with a bra, or tame with spandex, or lift with squats, or wear on your lips, or flatten with an iron, or pay for at the surgeon. Sexy is in the way you express and carry yourself; it’s in a confident smile, it’s in…
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Your Flawless Small Chest
Somehow I landed on this plastic surgery TV show in Spain and thought it was necessary for me to share this image. This lady went back to her surgeon after her left implant deflated. She had to go through a couple of procedures to remove the sagging skin around her chest because, after all, the size of her implants had to be reduced. First, I couldn’t help but notice the size that she went for originally. It’s so disproportional to her body, what did she expect? I wonder if she ever tipped over. Second, I can never understand why any woman would go to this length, through this trouble, any…
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Buns and Bosoms in Tina Fey’s Words
In her book, Bossypants, Tina Fey writes the following: I think the first real change in women’s body image came when JLo turned it butt-style. That was the first time that having a large-scale situation in the back was part of mainstream American beauty. Girls wanted butts now. Men were free to admit that they had always enjoyed them. And then, what felt like moments later, boom—Beyoncé brought the leg meat. A back porch and thick muscular legs were now widely admired. And from that day forward, women embraced their diversity and realized that all shapes and sizes are beautiful. Ah ha ha. No. I’m totally messing with you. All…
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Where Empowerment Doesn’t Come From
Absolutely LOVED this article by Beauty Redefined, where they call Victoria’s Secret on their “empowering” bullsh*t. What girls need is campaigns like VS to go away; to stop selling unhealthy and dangerous standards to our younger generation. You’re in control of your body, ladies. Remember that. Here’s an excerpt: This brand begs us to believe, and totally relies on us believing, that our power comes from enhancing, accessorizing, fixing, and flaunting our bodies. It relies on us believing beautiful and “sexy” look ONE very specific way — very thin, tall, young, and wrinkle- and cellulite-free — and that we must achieve those ideals by any means necessary in order to…
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Artistic Success Should Not Depend on Breasts
There’s a place for everything and my guess is that if men wanted to see breasts in a clubby environment, they should then go to a strip club. Even Burlesque shows can give them a better view. (I’ve got you covered, dudes.) But regular nightclubs are for real dancing. I went to yet another audition the other day — and I mean, this was for simple club gig, nothing major. As I struggled to make my top look fuller (I guess), one of the women I used to work with, and who was part of the panel judging our “abilities,” walked in the dressing room and, noticing my struggle, bluntly…
