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In a Shell: There’s Nothing Wrong With You
I originally shared this video back in 2013, and came across the post again now in 2022 as I was looking at my archives. I’m glad the video is still around because, as I said on my original post, it resonated with me in a big way; it made me feel understood. And I’m sure it can send a message of relief to others. Like Harry, I was a very shy, introverted kid. I know what it’s like to live in your head and see no way out of it, and I wish more people had told me that I was not alone and it was going to be okay.…
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Life is Now: Give Yourself a Break
When you want to punish yourself for poor decisions you made, before you knew they were bad, give yourself a break. Remember that there was a moment in time when you thought it was right. And even if you always knew it was wrong, but continued to go on because, after all, it was your choice, give yourself a break. Whether personally, socially, morally acceptable or not, it must’ve given you something to feel good about if you risked it all (or some) to make room for it in your life. It gave you joy at some point and that moment in time mattered. When you look back and see…
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For the Years We Couldn’t Cope
In the short week ahead we’ll see what’s left of a year when we tried to make the best In the eye of adversity we showed resilience through vulnerability We came together, family and friends Divided by politics, but closer in the end. A journey through seas that have closed the gates to all herds in the midst of an outbreak seemingly hard to treat, globally absurd. Never discriminating against the odds good or bad, the xenophiles or xenophobes, pandemics know no boundaries, no border is hard to cross. But with a new year comes renewed hope for all the ones we couldn’t cope And if 2022 is another test…
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Giving Thanks in My Own Way
It’s Thanksgiving in three days, the time we express gratitude for the things we have. But really, how thankful are we when we say we are? I think being grateful to be alive has never been more meaningful than it has these past two years. For a lot of us — who experienced it, had someone who went through it, or lost someone to COVID-19 — the everyday expression “just thankful to be alive” hits differently. It’s so filling when you actually mean it. So that is already a given. But how about the relatively smaller qualities? The things that give meaning to our lives, and which often go unaccounted for?…
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Can You Be Friends with Your Ex? And Other Questions
Can you really be friends with your ex? This is an interesting phenomenon and gives us a lot to talk about. But to me, the uncomplicated, straightforward answer to that is yes, it’s possible. Now, let me break down my full opinion on the matter. Growing up, I watched too many friends and families’ romantic relationships turn sour, ending in bad terms. There was a lot of grieving through sad music going on. Some of them were always trying to get even. Basically, everybody seemed to be toxic as hell once love was over. Somewhat understandable. This made me question love sometimes; I think I was afraid of it. And…
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One Lie at a Time
My closed eyes won’t let me see what’s right in front of me, but will navigate deep into the what-used-to-be. My attempt to drop the baggage as I make my way out of this black hole that seems to have no fin or starting point, has failed me every time, bringing me back to that dreaded point, starting back at one. Progress seems so slow; a step forward ends up being two steps backward. Still, no finish line in sight on this, the longest stride. And forget my cluttered mind — can find no solutions there. The fog inside is thick and thoughts are all in knots, words lose their…
